Our bible study is doing Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. There is a study guide and dvds to watch. When I started watching it, Dr. Emerson refers to the pink lense and the blue lense and it was so easy to "see" things that way. It is helping Ryan and I know what each other needs and when we say things a certain way, we do not mean it that way.
Why does communication between couples remain the number one marriage issue? “Because,” says Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, “most spouses don’t know that they speak two different languages. They are sending each other messages in ‘code,’ but they won’t crack that code until they see that she listens to hear the language of love and he listens to hear the language of respect.”
Dr. Eggerichs’ best-selling book, Love & Respect, launched a revolution in how couples relate to each other. In The Language of Love & Respect, he presents a practical, step-by-step approach for how husbands and wives can learn to speak each other’s distinctly different language—respect for him, love for her. The result is mutual understanding and a successful, happy marriage.
|I highly recommend this book no matter how many years you have been married or if your marriage is struggling right now. I love hearing all the different perspectives from our small group couple.|